Laura Rice is a very good friend of mines, she lives in Alabama with her husband, daughter and pets, she is a Christian and loves to garden,
I asked her to take part in my “moms” blog, where I get to interview mom across borders,
This is her interview below!!!
Q. How long have you been a SAHM and what prompted you to stay home with your baby
A-I have been a SAHM since my daughter was born in 2006. Prior to getting pregnant I had not considered returning to work as an option I was interested. Part probably comes from the fact that my mom stayed at home until my sister and I began school. In addition I wanted my daughter and I to have optimum time to get to know each other, I didn’t want to miss out on any of her growing milestones and the simple everyday childhood activities. I believe that being at home with my child is the best thing to nurture a great start in life.
Q. Do you stay home because you want to, or because you need to, given the cost of child care
A-I stay at home because I want to. If I were working most of my pay would have gone toward childcare anyway.
Q: Growing up did you have a parent who stayed home?
A. Yes, as I mentioned earlier, my mother stayed at home with my sister and me. She began working outside the home when we were seven and eight years old and both in school.
Q.What do you think about working moms?
A. I respect everyone’s right to choose to do what they feel is best and to do what is necessary to maintain the best environment for their family.
Q. Ok, here goes, the question we’ve all been waiting for…what do you do all day?
A. Spy on my neighbors and browse social media! What else? HAHA I homeschool my daughter. I use an eclectic approach, pulling from different curriculum, to simply coming up with my own activities/unit studies to go along with a subject we’re currently studying, something that catches our attention or to accompany the wonderful books we get to read. Keeping up with that schedule does take some work and I tend to spend a lot of time on gathering information and activities in preparation for future studies. I also maintain our home, which is a priority for me, otherwise I feel chaotic. Maintaining a home with laundry, dishes, keeping things neat, vacuuming, mopping cooking and so much more is enough without adding a child to the mix. It becomes a full-time job when you throw in a kid or two. My daughter and I enjoy many activities together and separately. She has her own chores that add to caring for our family as well as taking care of her pets. We also get to have our share of fun and run errands as needed. Because we stay at home we have the flexibility to go to the beach or spend the afternoon at the pool or take trips. We get to see her daddy on his lunch break for most days of the work-week, which has been so vital to their relationship.
Q. What are some disadvantages to being SAHM
A. For me the biggest has been isolation. We moved from our family and friends to a new town, a very small town, which affords little outside of the necessities, groceries and my husband’s job. I also find that my level of tolerance for my daughter’s energy, (which includes a lot of talking *A LOT* of talking, singing, just the fun noises she likes to make) wears out throughout the day and I must find ways to replenish my own energy that is being zapped. Admittedly, the everyday stuff, just going through the motions sometimes gets to me. But that’s also a clue to me that we need to find an activity to enjoy.
Q.What are the biggest advantages of being a SAHM?
A. I get to be with my daughter so much, see her grow, see the learning of new things click! We get to allow our interests lead us to activities that we would otherwise not be able to do. I also am able to put in the time to maintaining my home at the level that I prefer. I can only imagine what it would be like if I were working full time.
Q. What is the one piece of advice you would give to another mom who is contemplating becoming a stay-at-home-mom?
A. Be prepared to put in place some sort of outlet for yourself such as a hobby and exercise. My independent interests save me on a daily basis. I require that to replenish my energy. Of course that may not be enough, many moms must get out of the house, more often than I feel the need. So that may be the thing that replenishes your energy. Either way, don’t hesitate to find something to lose yourself in, even if only a mental get-away, it is very necessary for maintaining your autonomy and sanity!
What questions do you have for any other SAHM?
what questions do people ask you, or do you feel you’d like to answer?
What is your top tip for making your home run smoothly.
People do often ask, “What do you do all day?” as if there could be nothing to do. I also get asked “How are you able to be both an educator and the disciplinarian?” as if these two are mutually exclusive.
laura l rice
daughter of the King of Kings